So You Made a Mistake: What You Could Learn from Steve Harvey
Trill or Not Trill?


Own up to your mistakes
I felt really bad for all parties involved. Miss Colombia had to be heartbroken and harvey apologySteve, well Steve had to feel embarrassed. It’s a mistake that as a professional, he should have really avoided. Guess what though, things happen. An error isn’t the end of the world.  Steve Harvey immediately jumped on a grenade that he accidently detonated. In a leadership position you will certainly have a pressurized moment, where a cover up seems like the best plan. The truth will truly set you free. Own up to your mistakes and growth will follow. It will show everyone that you strong enough to deal with consequences. Understand that some doors might close because of this, but that will only lead to other doors to open up. Those opportunities will only present themselves if you go back to work and continue to put forth the effort to be great.

Gift and curse of the pedestal
As a student leader, you will often be in front an audience or a crowd. It may not be as many people as Steve Harvey, but you’ll often be holding court. With that said, leaders, entertainers and others will be placed on a pedestal. What comes with that is a great view and wonderful accolades. Then, there’s the curse. With all those gifts, know that any fall from up top will leave a mark. When your hard work and talent gives you a platform, it also comes with a responsibility to always be on. This isn’t always fair, but your mistakes as well as your successes will be magnified.  Steve Harvey made a mistake that you and I have likely made before, but with millions watching, the pressure is on. As you soar to the top, know that people will try to clip your wings or there may be some turbulence. Through that trouble and pain, keep flying.

Beware of trolls 
When you make a mistake, the trolls come out in full force. Remember when you tripped and everyone just started laughing and nobody bothered to see if you were ok. That’s early signs of trolling. Or you’re up doing some presentation in middle school and there are some chuckles because you mispronounced a word. That was some baby trolling. Those cases aren’t too bad to handle.  Then the monster known as social media showed up to the party. It allowed trolls, bigots, sexists, racists, homophobes, assholes, etc to spew hate from anywhere on earth. Steve Harvey caught the wrath of the racist trolls. This was totally uncalled for. As tough as it may be, you have to be big enough to ignore such despicable behavior. Those voices are insignificant.

Power of proofreading
steve-harvey-tweetWe are in the age of autocorrect and it seemingly got to Steve Harvey too. I often get emails from students filled with spelling errors. Before clicking send, you have to read and reread. Harvey got roasted for misspelling the Philippines and Colombia. Bible verses and Ivy League schools, they are not.  Not paying attention to certain details, shows that you are rushing and or not paying attention. All of those “your vs you’re” mistakes have to go. Your better than that. (see what I did there)

People will have your back
Your reputation precedes you. Hard work and effort will eventually supersede all. img_6494 One of the chief content officers of the Miss Universe production came out, immediately after the airing and defended Steve Harvey. The love your family and friends will show you will rise to the top. Steve Harvey’s wife immediately posted her support for her husband on Instagram.  After this all boils over, he’ll be home with her not those trolls. Trust your team and they will hold you down, no matter what.

Sidenote: Maybe it’s time we get rid of the term 1st runner up.




Stay trill, folks.

MrJeffDess is a writer, professor, public speaker and emcee of Haitian descent. He is an author of 4 books of poetry, including his latest, Deconstructing Ratchet. With over ten years of performing and student affairs experience under his belt MrJeffDess continues to strive towards helping students reach their highest potential. For booking information, contact MrJeffDess at